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Ep. 390 – Getting people to admit they have a problem
Stop trying to convince people they have issues, challenges and problems. It doesn’t work. What’s more effective is a principle of quiet influence based on gaining their permission to discuss and illuminate areas for improvement. They can then make what I call “the admission” by willingly and deliberately admitting what needs to be fixed.
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- Episode 20 – Bite your tongueNovember 20, 201713 min
- Episode 19 – Avoiding an audience double standardNovember 13, 201711 min
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- Episode 17 – Quiet timeOctober 27, 201713 min
- Episode 16 – Getting some people to talk more (not less)October 23, 201713 min
- Episode 15 – Confident leaders don’t get itOctober 17, 201713 min
- Episode 14 – The uncomfortable allure of a crucible storyOctober 9, 201714 min
- Episode 13 – Leaders we all love deliver precise praiseOctober 2, 201712 min
- Episode 12 – Knowing if a meeting should’ve been an e-mailSeptember 25, 201711 min
- Episode 11 – Bearing the heavy burden of delivering bad newsSeptember 19, 201714 min
- Episode 10 – Signs your team is not on the same pageApril 11, 201715 min
- Episode 9 – Concise writers are ruthless redactorsApril 1, 201715 min
- Episode 8 – Great messages are as simple as 1-2-3March 28, 201715 min
- Episode 7 – Tesla’s not-so-secret strategyMarch 21, 201715 min
- Episode 6 – Owning a message that’s importantMarch 14, 201711 min
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- Episode 4 – Hoping vs. knowing your point got across?February 28, 201710 min
- Episode 3 – Does a moment of anger make you rant and repeat?February 23, 201710 min
- Episode 2 – Pitching a bright ideaFebruary 16, 201710 min
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- Episode 70 – Meeting agenda designDecember 31, 201811 min
- Episode 69 – Hitting mute more often in your lifeDecember 17, 201817 min
- Episode 68 – Why do AAR’s frequently fail?December 10, 201814 min
- Episode 67 – Talking yourself through adversityDecember 3, 201813 min
- Episode 66 – What’s an insight and why do they matter?November 26, 201813 min
- Episode 65 – Sabotaging your organization from withinNovember 19, 201811 min
- Episode 64 – More like tennis, less like golfNovember 12, 201810 min
- Episode 63 – Asking much better questionsNovember 5, 201814 min
- Episode 62 – I couldn’t articulate the strategyOctober 29, 201812 min
- Episode 61 – The failure of open floor plansOctober 22, 201814 min
- Episode 60 – Time to say goodbyeOctober 15, 201810 min
- Episode 59 – It takes a hurricane to get people to talkOctober 8, 201811 min
- Episode 58 – Perception management: facts and feelingsOctober 1, 201814 min
- Episode 57 – Is “time posting” a word?September 24, 20189 min
- Episode 56 – Aim small, miss smallSeptember 17, 201811 min
- Episode 55 – What to do with my hands?September 3, 201810 min
- Episode 54 – Tune into AM 101August 27, 201815 min
- Episode 53 – Motivational speeches might help the other teamAugust 20, 201816 min
- Episode 52 – Tune into FM 101August 13, 201814 min
- Episode 51 – Hating the gift of feedbackAugust 6, 201812 min
- Episode 50 – The Uber talk testJuly 30, 201813 min
- Episode 49 – Saying noJuly 23, 201814 min
- Episode 48 – Curbing a culture of meetingsJuly 16, 201815 min
- Episode 47 – Did that conversation ruin me?July 9, 201814 min
- Episode 46 – Working to get fired or hiredJune 25, 20189 min
- Episode 45 – My father’s three favorite phrasesJune 17, 20189 min
- Episode 44 – Unpacking your e-mailsJune 11, 201813 min
- Episode 43 – Smartphone bans comingJune 4, 201814 min
- Episode 42 – Not valuing a volunteerMay 29, 201814 min
- Episode 41 – A good story breaks a tieMay 21, 201814 min
- Episode 40 – Warning: explicit messagesMay 14, 201812 min
- Episode 39 – Pitfalls of progress reportsApril 30, 201814 min
- Episode 38 – Hey, listen to why it’s so difficultApril 23, 201813 min
- Episode 37 – The single most important thingApril 16, 201812 min
- Episode 36 – Ready, player oneApril 9, 201814 min
- Episode 35 – The dread of silenceApril 2, 201812 min
- Episode 34 – The minister for lonelinessMarch 20, 201813 min
- Episode 33 – Focus, people!March 13, 201812 min
- Episode 32 – When words become worthlessMarch 8, 201811 min
- Episode 31 – An info-junkie crack house (Brain Basics Part II)February 26, 201815 min
- Episode 30 – Penguins on an Iceberg (Brain Basics Part I)February 20, 201814 min
- Episode 29 – Go to sleepJanuary 30, 201815 min
- Episode 28 – Are smartphones addictive brain candy for kids?January 22, 201815 min
- Episode 27 – Training people to ignore a safety briefingJanuary 15, 201814 min
- Episode 26 – Stay tuned. Fans aren’t really.January 9, 201813 min
- Episode 122 – Be my guest: Microsoft’s Jim Lee with Charley ThorntonDecember 30, 201918 min
- Episode 121 – You need a nap, not another appDecember 23, 201912 min
- Episode 120 – Putting up with old people’s stories (ok, boomer!)December 16, 201913 min
- Episode 119 – Managing tough (and great) conversationsDecember 9, 201912 min
- Call Back Episode – Focus, people!December 2, 201915 min
- Call Back Episode – It’s a good time to say thanksNovember 25, 201910 min
- Call Back Episode – Why do AAR’s frequently fail?November 18, 201914 min
- Episode 115 – Noise filters: media consumptionNovember 11, 201914 min
- Episode 114 – Talk-to-talk temptationNovember 4, 201914 min
- Episode 113 – Recommended Reading: The flood is comingOctober 28, 201912 min
- Episode 112 – Does that resonate with you?October 21, 201912 min
- Episode 111 – The basics of trimmingOctober 14, 201910 min
- Episode 110 – Interviews to transition to your next realityOctober 7, 201914 min
- Episode 109 – Is multitasking a mistake or management skill?September 30, 201911 min
- Episode 108 – Present listening and preaching to the choirSeptember 23, 20199 min
- Episode 107 – The connection between comedy and claritySeptember 16, 201915 min
- Episode 106 – Providing senior leaders communication counselSeptember 9, 201913 min
- Episode 105 – Quiet Time: the sweetest soundsSeptember 2, 201915 min
- Episode 104 – The rhythm of repetitionAugust 26, 201911 min
- Episode 103 – Why 1-on-1’s are mutually painfulAugust 19, 201913 min
- Episode 102 – Building a better elevator speechAugust 12, 201912 min
- Sounding off on “NOISE”August 7, 201915 min
- Episode 100 – Questions & Answers (Q&A)July 29, 201913 min
- Episode 99 – Practical presentation principlesJuly 22, 201912 min
- Episode 98 – BatchingJuly 15, 201910 min
- Episode 97 – Make a recommendationJuly 8, 201910 min
- Episode 96 – IrrelevantJuly 1, 201912 min
- Episode 95 – Forced to focusJune 24, 201914 min
- Episode 94 – Enduring a culture of long and confusingJune 17, 201912 min
- Episode 93 – The promise of prognosticatorsJune 10, 201913 min
- Episode 92 – Has TED jumped the shark?June 3, 201911 min
- Episode 91 – How to find your voiceMay 27, 201911 min
- Episode 90 – Do introverts have the advantage?May 20, 201912 min
- Episode 89 – When you just don’t careMay 13, 201911 min
- Episode 88 – Communicating when you’re on edgeMay 6, 201911 min
- Episode 87 – Nodding loops: real or imagined?April 29, 201912 min
- Episode 86 – How you show upApril 22, 201910 min
- Episode 85 – Micro-preparationApril 15, 201912 min
- Episode 84 – Napoleon DynamiteApril 8, 20199 min
- Episode 83 – More senseless note takingApril 1, 201912 min
- Episode 82 – Being deliberateMarch 25, 20199 min
- Episode 81 – Clarifying communication preferences, part 1March 18, 201911 min
- Episode 80 – The illusion of immediacyMarch 11, 201913 min
- Episode 79 – Empty the trashMarch 4, 20197 min
- Episode 78 – The single biggest writing mistakeFebruary 25, 201912 min
- Episode 77 – Many meanings of the word briefFebruary 18, 201911 min
- Episode 76 – Why performance reviews crush moraleFebruary 11, 201911 min
- Episode 75 – A lazy man’s loadFebruary 4, 201910 min
- Episode 74 – The loss of civil discourseJanuary 28, 201912 min
- Episode 73 – Why commander’s intent drives subordinates crazyJanuary 21, 201911 min
- Episode 72 – Preparing for chance conversationsJanuary 14, 201911 min
- Episode 71 – It’s a good time to say thanksJanuary 7, 201910 min
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- Episode 171– The LineupDecember 14, 202013 min
- Episode 170 – The uneasiness of great meeting facilitationDecember 7, 202015 min
- Call Back Episode – It’s a good time to say thanksNovember 30, 202010 min
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- Episode 167– Take 5 Quiet CardsNovember 9, 202014 min
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- Episode 164– My Apple Watch surpriseOctober 5, 202014 min
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- Episode 160– A better way to prepareSeptember 7, 202012 min
- Call Back Episode – Tesla’s not-so-secret strategySeptember 1, 202015 min
- Episode 159– Crafting a clear problem statementAugust 24, 202014 min
- Call Back Episode – Talking yourself through adversityAugust 17, 202013 min
- Episode 158– Simple vs. complicatedAugust 10, 202014 min
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- Episode 146 – Terrible writers need some helpMay 25, 202010 min
- Episode 145 – Admitting we were wrongMay 18, 202010 min
- Episode 144 – Four false assumptions to avoidMay 11, 202013 min
- Episode 143 – Defining what “virtual” really means nowMay 4, 202012 min
- Episode 142 – VTC’s and me: seeing is believingApril 27, 202014 min
- Episode 141 – That was too briefApril 20, 202012 min
- Episode 140 – Best of: Why is listening so hard & Asking better questionsApril 18, 202030 min
- Episode 139 – The essential qualities of great communicatorsApril 13, 202014 min
- Episode 138 – Forcing the world to pauseApril 6, 202012 min
- Episode 137 – Saying no, not nowMarch 30, 202011 min
- Episode 136 – Best of: Minister of loneliness & it takes a hurricane to get people to talkMarch 28, 202025 min
- Episode 135 – Unified messaging that heals fracture and divisionMarch 23, 202018 min
- Episode 134 – Best of: Limiting your media consumption & the promise of prognosticatorsMarch 21, 202029 min
- Episode 133 – Managing noise in a time of crisisMarch 18, 202013 min
- Episode 132 – That might be the wrong wordMarch 9, 202010 min
- Episode 131 – Storytelling as a valuable tool for teachingMarch 2, 202013 min
- Episode 130 – Creating momentum before a meetingFebruary 24, 202014 min
- Episode 129 – A semi-silent retreat debriefFebruary 17, 202012 min
- Episode 128 – Giving into message fatigueFebruary 13, 202011 min
- Episode 127 – Voicing a frustrationFebruary 3, 202014 min
- Episode 126 – NOISE Filter: Our 1st and last thought of the dayJanuary 27, 202012 min
- Call Back Episode – Quiet timeJanuary 20, 202013 min
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- Ep. 217 – What’s in a name?December 20, 202114 min
- Ep. 216 – Entrepreneurial lessonsDecember 13, 202114 min
- Ep. 215 – Silent meeting startsDecember 6, 202113 min
- Call Back Episode – Empty the trashNovember 29, 20217 min
- Ep. 214 – Thanksgiving: notes of gratitudeNovember 22, 202114 min
- Ep. 213 – The Quiet Workplace (an essay)November 14, 202115 min
- Ep. 212 – Wrap it upNovember 8, 202112 min
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- Ep. 210 – ScatteredOctober 25, 202114 min
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- Ep. 208 – Talk isn’t cheapOctober 11, 202113 min
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- Call Back EP – Take 5 Quiet CardsSeptember 13, 202115 min
- Ep. 204 – Misunderstandings, pt. 2September 8, 202113 min
- Ep. 203 – MisunderstandingsAugust 30, 202113 min
- Ep. 202 – Leaving the complaining clubAugust 23, 202113 min
- Episode 201 – Creating a better, SMART BRIEF resolutionAugust 16, 202114 min
- Episode 200 – A time to celebrateAugust 10, 202114 min
- Call Back Episode – Enduring a culture of long and confusingAugust 2, 202112 min
- Call Back Episode – Quiet Time: the sweetest soundsJuly 27, 202115 min
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- Call Back Episode – VTC’s and me: seeing is believingJuly 5, 202114 min
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- Episode 198– BRIEF Meeting Prep CardsJune 21, 202114 min
- Episode 197 – By my guest: Cameron Cruse, R.Riveter Co-FounderJune 14, 202117 min
- Episode 196 – Just three wordsJune 7, 202112 min
- Episode 195 – FAQ: Sharing the BRIEF methodMay 31, 202118 min
- Episode 194 – I’ve Gotta PeeMay 24, 202113 min
- Episode 193 – Be my guest: Hellene Garcia (Neat) on post-pandemic communicationMay 17, 202126 min
- Episode 192 – A primer on “Primer” (my new podcast)May 10, 20218 min
- Episode 191 – FAQ: Managing your mindsetMay 3, 202120 min
- Episode 190 – Speak up, or shut upApril 26, 202111 min
- Episode 189 – Be My Guest – Malachy Walsh InterviewApril 19, 202148 min
- Episode 188 – DRAFT CardsApril 12, 202115 min
- Episode 187 – FAQ: Understanding your audienceApril 5, 202115 min
- Episode 186 – A distorted viewMarch 29, 202112 min
- Episode 185 – Be my guest: Dr. Hans Breiter, Professor of PsychiatryMarch 22, 202130 min
- Episode 184 – Getting to no fasterMarch 15, 202111 min
- Episode 183 – FAQ: Being brief on the spot, away from workMarch 8, 202114 min
- Episode 182 – Stepping away for a minute (from digital devices)March 1, 202114 min
- Episode 181 – The big momentFebruary 22, 202113 min
- Episode 180 – FAQ: Better headlines build a bridgeFebruary 15, 202116 min
- Episode 179 – Daily headlines: 1st and last thought of the dayFebruary 8, 202113 min
- Episode 178 – Be my guest: Aaron Weber, ComedianFebruary 1, 202127 min
- Episode 177 – The morass of time managementJanuary 25, 202112 min
- Episode 176 – FAQ: Tackling the issue of quiet timeJanuary 18, 202121 min
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